Infidelity causes more break ups than just about any other reason. If you are dealing with infidelity in your relationship, it can feel like a bomb has gone off in your hearts. "I can never trust him/her again" is one of the strongest responses.
Trust is an essential part of close, intimate, real love. When it is broken, we feel (for a while) like there is no hope for getting it back. Even if we loved much about our mate, if they cheated on us, we dont see how we could ever be happy again with them, how could we trust them after such a sense of betrayal.
However, trust can be rebuilt, and it must be, in order for the relationship to have any chance. And, it can begin to be restored in minutes. Heres whats needed:
A Deep Apology. There are different kinds of apologies, and almost no one understands this. There are surface apologies, where you say Im sorry almost because it is expected. There are sincere apologies, where you really mean it. And then there are what could be called Deep or True Apologies.
Deep Apologies are the kinds of apologies needed to begin to restore trust once it has been broken. Deep Apologies are much more than saying Im sorry, no matter how much you mean it.
Deep Apologies involve several different steps. One step is to accept blame for what you did, and another important step is to mirror the emotional pain or damage you caused your mate by cheating on them. I think I made you feel ashamed and broken-hearted is a mirroring statement that helps your mate feel deeply understood.
There are some other things you need to do for a deep apology. However, don't just say "I'm sorry" and expect trust to be restored. It doesn't work that way. And, a good deep apology involves listening to your mate as much as speaking.
If, on the other hand, you were the one who got cheated on, there is a way to get a deep apology from your mate that can help you to release your hurt feelings and begin to restore trust beginning in just minutes. There's a lot more to this, but at least understand that if you are dealing with broken trust there are some ways to begin to restore it so you can save your relationship.
Trust is an essential part of close, intimate, real love. When it is broken, we feel (for a while) like there is no hope for getting it back. Even if we loved much about our mate, if they cheated on us, we dont see how we could ever be happy again with them, how could we trust them after such a sense of betrayal.
However, trust can be rebuilt, and it must be, in order for the relationship to have any chance. And, it can begin to be restored in minutes. Heres whats needed:
A Deep Apology. There are different kinds of apologies, and almost no one understands this. There are surface apologies, where you say Im sorry almost because it is expected. There are sincere apologies, where you really mean it. And then there are what could be called Deep or True Apologies.
Deep Apologies are the kinds of apologies needed to begin to restore trust once it has been broken. Deep Apologies are much more than saying Im sorry, no matter how much you mean it.
Deep Apologies involve several different steps. One step is to accept blame for what you did, and another important step is to mirror the emotional pain or damage you caused your mate by cheating on them. I think I made you feel ashamed and broken-hearted is a mirroring statement that helps your mate feel deeply understood.
There are some other things you need to do for a deep apology. However, don't just say "I'm sorry" and expect trust to be restored. It doesn't work that way. And, a good deep apology involves listening to your mate as much as speaking.
If, on the other hand, you were the one who got cheated on, there is a way to get a deep apology from your mate that can help you to release your hurt feelings and begin to restore trust beginning in just minutes. There's a lot more to this, but at least understand that if you are dealing with broken trust there are some ways to begin to restore it so you can save your relationship.
About the Author:
You can learn powerful proven ways to restore trust and get your ex back in a book about Get Your Love Back Now. John Laney teaches relationship intelligence skills and you can get a free course here on Free Relationship Advice Vital Tips.
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