Pain is felt in the body in the present. All pain is felt today. You cannot physically feel something yesterday or tomorrow. You can remember the pain of the past, and anticipate a pain in the future, but you can only feel pain in the present.
We can depict pain felt in the body on a time-line. A negative emotion felt in the body is experienced as stress. The emotions that we have are felt at various levels of intensity; low, medium and high. Whenever we have a negative emotion, such as hurt (present tense), anger or resentment (past tense), fear and anxiety (future tense), we are adding to our store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra explains the cycle of emotions that begins in the present (reality) " where only pain and pleasure are felt " and ends in complex emotions centred exclusively in the past or future - such as anxiety, guilt and depression (perceived reality). The cycle that gets repeated countless times in everyone's life is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes another person can be hurt by something you do or say. This behavior may be intentional or not, but results in you also experiencing pain; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. It is common for a person without the skills of effective communication to drag up past history in arguments to hurt their partner, having had the perception that the partner is hurting them or blaming them in some way. They use a conditioned response to ease their own (present tense) pain, not realizing that the behavior will have a physiological impact (meaning stress) on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. The pain time-line helps you understand your emotional constipation and the physiological impact of negative emotions felt in your body.
We can depict pain felt in the body on a time-line. A negative emotion felt in the body is experienced as stress. The emotions that we have are felt at various levels of intensity; low, medium and high. Whenever we have a negative emotion, such as hurt (present tense), anger or resentment (past tense), fear and anxiety (future tense), we are adding to our store of stress.
Negative emotion accumulates in the body and feels like emotional constipation. The more intensely you feel a negative emotion the greater your stress level.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra explains the cycle of emotions that begins in the present (reality) " where only pain and pleasure are felt " and ends in complex emotions centred exclusively in the past or future - such as anxiety, guilt and depression (perceived reality). The cycle that gets repeated countless times in everyone's life is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
Sometimes another person can be hurt by something you do or say. This behavior may be intentional or not, but results in you also experiencing pain; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - that is, stress. It is common for a person without the skills of effective communication to drag up past history in arguments to hurt their partner, having had the perception that the partner is hurting them or blaming them in some way. They use a conditioned response to ease their own (present tense) pain, not realizing that the behavior will have a physiological impact (meaning stress) on their own body.
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. The pain time-line helps you understand your emotional constipation and the physiological impact of negative emotions felt in your body.
About the Author:
More expert advice on recognizing the emotion cycle, dealing with unresolved resentments and emotional constipation is available from Karen Gosling's website, which is all about surviving emotional pain.
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