Online dating has one really great advantage over the meeting someone for the first time off-line, i.e. on a street (bar, museum, party, wherever). In dating on web you already know something on the person you are about to meet. This is especially important for those of us, who are shy. It is easy to beat the fear of rejection, when you already made some steps.
First exchange of emails, online chat and maybe even phone talk will let you make the first moves, which will pass you over that initial barrier. So you are there, but still, everything you will know about your online partner is just visual, textual and audio (perhaps) info, which this person found appropriate to be passed to you. Only real date will help to fill all blanks.
Finding right moment to meet in person (or to quit at once) is a key to success in online dating. That moment comes at some point in every virtual romance, and, most important, it usually does not stays for too long. You intuition should help you to recognize the moment when the time is right and you have to make the next move. Delaying it will be a mistake.
Your initial exchange with new friend should give you enough to decide whether you want to go further or not. As soon as you are getting to the last conclusion, the connection must be closed. Too long virtual flirting will not do much good. Here are the reasons:
1. When you feel that this particular pen pal of yours is not the one you were looking for, you have to quit the exchange at once. You dont need to give another person any false illusions, and you dont want to know better that person too - because this will make quitting harder. No matter how hard it may seem to say "no" sometime, it is always better to say it instead of getting dragged into a pointless and lengthy exchange. Do not wait, make your move as soon as you feel that this is not your match.
2. If you have delayed the real meeting, you are giving a chance to your imagination to fill the blanks. Idealization will take place, and imagining the partner as a better match will substitute your judgment which could be based on actual experience from live meeting. Such idealization can lead you to certain problems in the future, in case if the real person when materialized will not fulfill all expectations and virtues, which you have given to your imaginary friend.
The online pool of potential dates is immense, so savvy users of online dating networks use those networks only as a candidate sources, leaving the rest for actual dating. Two or three online messages and set the real date or quit and move for another candidate. This will be the best approach for both sides. There is no need to waste your and his (her) time on lengthy virtual exchange, you better see each other off-line, and either be happy or move on.
Good luck!
First exchange of emails, online chat and maybe even phone talk will let you make the first moves, which will pass you over that initial barrier. So you are there, but still, everything you will know about your online partner is just visual, textual and audio (perhaps) info, which this person found appropriate to be passed to you. Only real date will help to fill all blanks.
Finding right moment to meet in person (or to quit at once) is a key to success in online dating. That moment comes at some point in every virtual romance, and, most important, it usually does not stays for too long. You intuition should help you to recognize the moment when the time is right and you have to make the next move. Delaying it will be a mistake.
Your initial exchange with new friend should give you enough to decide whether you want to go further or not. As soon as you are getting to the last conclusion, the connection must be closed. Too long virtual flirting will not do much good. Here are the reasons:
1. When you feel that this particular pen pal of yours is not the one you were looking for, you have to quit the exchange at once. You dont need to give another person any false illusions, and you dont want to know better that person too - because this will make quitting harder. No matter how hard it may seem to say "no" sometime, it is always better to say it instead of getting dragged into a pointless and lengthy exchange. Do not wait, make your move as soon as you feel that this is not your match.
2. If you have delayed the real meeting, you are giving a chance to your imagination to fill the blanks. Idealization will take place, and imagining the partner as a better match will substitute your judgment which could be based on actual experience from live meeting. Such idealization can lead you to certain problems in the future, in case if the real person when materialized will not fulfill all expectations and virtues, which you have given to your imaginary friend.
The online pool of potential dates is immense, so savvy users of online dating networks use those networks only as a candidate sources, leaving the rest for actual dating. Two or three online messages and set the real date or quit and move for another candidate. This will be the best approach for both sides. There is no need to waste your and his (her) time on lengthy virtual exchange, you better see each other off-line, and either be happy or move on.
Good luck!
About the Author:
Des has one Ph.D. and one M.S., which are irrelevant to the major subject of his writing: relationships, personals and dating. To contact Des, see his other articles and/or access library of e-books and other materials on internet dating, matchmaking online, writing personal profiles, meeting single people and keeping long lasting relationships, or to sign-up on online dating clubs, visit Orbiana online dating Depot .
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